Proverbs 19:26

The book of Proverbs gives us insights into so many different areas of life. The book gives us instruction on how to live our lives for God. Here is a proverb that gives us insight about raising children:

Proverbs 19:26 (ESV)

He who does violence to his father and chases away his mother

is a son who brings shame and reproach.

Parents are often wrong.  They make large mistakes.   Sometimes they can recover for those mistakes.   Often they can't.   When they can't, children are often left bruised, tarnished and/or resentful.  That is when they turn on their parents.  Perhaps for good reasons, perhaps for an excuse not to deal with the real issues, children often reject their parents as they get older because of past slights or in light of current ills.   Solomon gives us all a warning.   Don't "deal violently" with your father and don't "push" your mom away.   It is a shame and disgraceful thing to do.   Now, if your parents are abusive and they are damaging you, then I think Solomon would agree separation or protection is a need and an option.  But, make sure we see the truth in the verse.  There is a reason God put as one of the Ten Commandments the need to "honor" father and mother.  In later times we are repeatedly told that children will forsake and rise up against their parents.  It is part of the last times and it is part of the depravity of sin.   Let's not forget that God has an order for honor and respect.  Parents are part of that order.  Be respectful.  It is not an option.